On the subject of bitterness - how do we resolve a wrong done to us?
Well, I have to remember it as a wrong of a person for whom Christ has died, even if that person isn't receiving that redemption personally.
Then I look at myself. Christ died for my sins, too. I can't remember transgression against me as one who is purely innocent. It's not as if I stand in the light and the other person in the darkness, and he or she has to do all the changing, while I bask in my self-righteousness.
(Miroslav Volf in Christianity Today, April 2007, p50)
